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No One Cares, So Why Are You Talking About It?

March 24, 2016 by thekrg

I live my life by a quote I heard at a conference. The saddest thing is that I don’t know who spoke the phrase, even though it’s become one one my personal mantras.

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It’s simple and profound.

Being busy, tired and stressed are our society’s status symbols. Someone asks how you are and you launch into a diatribe on the three cliches.

Here’s the insulting truth—the person who asked couldn’t care less. They don’t really want to know how you are, they’re simply acknowledging that another breathing mammal is in their presence.

They want you to say: “I’m fine, thanks. How are you?”

They don’t want an overview of your overwhelming itinerary.

I’m not suggesting that you’re not busy. I’m sure your stress level fully indicates your hierarchical position on the food chain. Although I should mention here that we all have the same 168 hours between Monday and Sunday, and it may be worth considering how you spend yours if you always feel stressed out. For more on that topic, read You Have More Time Than You Think.

Perhaps we should take time to think about why we’re really so strung out feeling before companions stop inquiring about our day all together. Even worse, we may get so busy being busy that we don’t take time to do what’s really important.

Either way, my recommendation is, when people ask you how you are, just say “fabulous.” Perhaps you might just start to believe it.

 

 I originally wrote this post in June 2010. I updated it for reposting because it’s still just a true today. I hope you enjoy it. If you do, please share it.

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Comments

  1. Kendy Cox says

    April 26, 2011 at 1:16 pm

    My standard line is, “Can’t complain.” By the very nature of the words, I’ve stopped myself from doing just that. 🙂

    Reply
    • thekrg says

      April 26, 2011 at 5:51 pm

      That is excellent! My students have figured out my system. They say you can tell how I’m actually doing based on how I say “fabulous.” They say the happier it is, the worse things are. I guess you can’t really hide it.

      Thanks for the comment, Kendy.

      Reply
  2. BruceSallan says

    November 2, 2011 at 5:24 pm

    How was your last flight, Kenna?

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    • profkrg says

      November 3, 2011 at 9:45 am

      @BruceSallan Fabulous, thanks 😉

      Reply
  3. Peggy Kief Adams says

    March 24, 2016 at 10:30 pm

    I have stopped asking people how are you when I have no plans to stop and listen. Instead I say, so good to see you! As I hurry on past.

    Reply
  4. Prof KRG says

    March 24, 2016 at 11:01 pm

    That seems more honest, unless it’s not good to see that person…

    Reply
  5. Peggy Kief Adams says

    March 24, 2016 at 11:26 pm

    Ha. Those people ,well, bless their hearts. Grin

    Reply

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