Don’t be that person.
You know the one.
The one who constantly complains but doesn’t actually want help. The person just wants to complain.
A mentor once said to me during a conversation about another person:
Don’t be one of those people who just bitches. No one wants to deal with those people.”
I’m pretty sure I just laughed and agreed with her at the time, but I found myself thinking a lot about this comment later. Her advice resonated with me because I’m not a naturally positive person. I’m snarky and sharp witted. I also tend to be a bit of a worrier. I began wondering if I’m one of those people who “just bitches.”
I then began identifying those people in my life. I bet you could easily name the complainers in your life too. And, she’s right, we don’t want to talk with them… be with them… deal with them. They’re a big downer.
I also realized that I don’t respect these people much because they have decided, consciously or not, to be victims of their circumstances. They’ve decided just to complain, but not to actually do anything about what they’re complaining about.
Because, let’s face it, those are your options. You can either complain, change the situation or remove yourself from it. By choosing to complain, you’re admitting defeat instead of taking action.
Let’s try this instead. The next time you find yourself wanting to complain about something, stop and think about your role in the situation. Ask yourself what good it will do to complain. If you can change the situation or solve the problem, then take that action. Otherwise, let it go or remove yourself from the issue. But, whatever you do, don’t be that person who just bitches.